Our love story.
“Fairy Tales Can Come True, It Can Happen To You“ ~Frank Sinatra
Thankfully, God writes real love stories. And that’s our
story.
It’s a story of God’s great, powerful, relentless, faithful
and abounding love for us. A story that
without God’s direction and guidance, wouldn’t have been possible. A story that needs and deserves God to
receive all the Glory! We Praise Jesus
for it all!
If you wonder about this God of ours and if He really can
answer prayers and live up to the Throne He sits on... we hope our story will
help you see the power of His love!
I live in Portland, Oregon; among the Cascade mountains.
Worlds apart; literally.
He teaches Math and Bible at Christ’s Gift Academy (www.cga.org), takes care of much admin work,
oversees CGA’s secondary school program and coaches a community girl’s soccer (www.subalakers.com) team.
I work for These Numbers Have Faces (www.thesenumbers.org) focusing on
providing college students with scholarships and raising up future leaders in
Africa; specifically, in South Africa and Rwanda.
Together, we cover pre-school through university! :-)
Before going to Africa....
Joe was one of the youngest assistant coaches in college
basketball when his Northwestern State (LA) team reached the NCCA March Madness
tournament. But God had bigger plans for
him beyond his successful career in basketball.
I was...well, you know... a rocket scientist. But God knew
my heart was made for a life serving and loving others, working with youth and
being involved in the community.
We have both prayed - for years and years! - and desired to
have a life partner; a teammate; a best friend to do life and ministry
together. And we know, and are grateful
for, many of our friends who have prayed with us for our future spouse.
When you’re both 36 and single, you might be known for being
picky; but I think it’s better described that we both knew what God wanted for
us and kept trusting and believing that He does have His very best waiting for
us.
God did.
We met in Portland, Oregon on Oct 23rd, 2012.
Joe was in the States for 3 months visiting family, friends
and traveling around the country sharing stories and updates of the ministry of
CGA with various supporters and churches.
Our mutual and wonderful friend (and best match-maker on
Earth!) Don, connected us. Telling us we
would each enjoy hearing about each other’s work and experiences in East
Africa. Joe has spent 9 years in Kenya
and I lived 6 months in Zambia and 1.5 years in Uganda.
Portland wasn’t a city Joe’s visited frequently during his
trips Stateside. In fact, this was only
his second time. I moved to Portland only
5 months ago... without a job, but sensing and believing that God had something
waiting for me in Portland! He did- I
now have a wonderful job that is a huge blessing. But even with a job I love, I
had been struggling with wanting to settle here and dig my heels into
friendships/relationships, a church and more.
I’ve had feelings of being unsettled.
For weeks, before I ever met Joe, I was trying hard to work through this
unsettledness and ask God to show me why I was struggling to “fit in” in Portland,
accept it as my new home, and get involved in the community in typical Daneen
fashion; passionately feet first 100%. Now, I wonder if God was just protecting my
heart and preparing me for something else he had for me; something larger than
I could have dreamed up on my own!
I went to a dinner gathering where Joe shared with a small
group of old friends from various stages of his life. Before I could leave, he wanted to hear more
about These Numbers Have Faces. CGA has
been supporting students through secondary school and are figuring out how to
continue to support their best and brightest to go on to university.
Two days later, Joe and Joyce (CGA board member) came to our
office to chat in more detail about best practices for raising up leaders in
Africa to change their countries. Joe
was trying to find a way to spend more time with me (it’s true), so he invited
us to lunch. We had an enjoyable time at
lunch with some cute “nudges” expressing our interest in each other. We
finished lunch. I would email him some information about our program.
We said goodbye. He
hugged me!
He was leaving Portland the next day and would be leaving for
Kenya in 4 weeks.
The End.
Nope... Just the beginning!!!
Ministry/work related emails quickly turned personal and we
both started sharing very naturally and openly about the challenges of life and
work in Africa and America and trying to do it well. Emails turned into text messages and then into
phone calls.
Two weeks into the long, open and honest emails, Joe called
me and invited me to come to California, where he was staying with his
family. His intentions: for us to spend
time together before he went back to Kenya for another 2 years and to explore
the possibility that maybe there was something worth pursing between us. After some silence on the phone because I
was speechless and truly stunned by his offer, I replied “you should know I’m
smiling”! I later said “Yes” and he bought my ticket.
I flew to Cali for 5 days.
From the beginning, we had a really fun time together. It was easy and super comfortable to be
around each other! Every day got better and better. Two days before I was supposed to leave, he
asked me to stay longer. To stay through
Thanksgiving and until Saturday when he would fly back to Kenya. Again, I was very stunned but this time he
could see the smile on my face. I said “Yes”
and we changed my flight to leave after his flight to Kenya the next Saturday.
I would stay for an extra 5 days, but he would be flying to
Montana for 2 of those for one last fundraising trip. It was actually great timing; like everything
in our story. It was valuable time apart
and gave us the opportunity to step back, embrace and process all that had happened
in the previous week. To pray and seek
good counsel. Make sure we were being
wise and not foolish. We each spoke
with our mentors and people we look to for wise counsel in our lives. No one...not one... had reservations. Instead they saw the Lord’s hand and offered
to continue in prayer for us.
When Joe came back from Montana he had missed me
terribly! Really, he did! :-) He
brought back the sweetest and most thoughtful gifts for me....but there was a
better gift. He decided he wanted to delay
his return to Kenya. He wanted to spend another month with me! He wanted to come see me up in Portland and
go to Pennsylvania for Christmas to meet my parents!
Again...stunned. But
smiling as the tears welled up. After a
day of thinking it through and more prayer, on Thanksgiving Day, we changed his
flight, booked flights to Portland and Baltimore and changed one of my flights
to coincide with his. Everything lined
up so well. Ideal dates were available
and costs were minimal; including one flight costing $5 after using
miles!! Someone wanted us to spend more time
together! :-)
Is this all really true?
Is this real? We both kept asking
ourselves. Yet we knew-- it felt more
right and more real than anything we had each ever known!! Ever!
We both had a great sense of peace. Peace, that in the midst of a nearly
unbelievable whirlwind love story, brings clear guidance that this IS from the
Lord.
Joe has continued to amaze me at his courageous acts to lead
us and listen to where God is directing us. Courageous, yet in the most humble
way.
I have even been amazed at myself and how, through the Spirit’s leading, I have fully trusted and respected Joe’s leading and not needed to jump-in with my own plans or ideas. I simply recognize his honor and character and fully respect it! For a single, independent and confident girl who loves to plan...that’s huge. Only through Jesus does it all make sense!
We now have another 3 weeks together. To continue to prayerfully walk through this
incredible courtship and await the beautiful future that Jesus is planning!
Are we foolish for believing this love story to be true so
quickly? Not one bit. For 3 clear reasons:
1. As it’s often said, “when you know, you know”... We Know!!!
2. We both have a perfect peace that comes from the Holy
Spirit’s guidance.
3. Jesus has been the one to orchestrate every detail;
starting with us managing to meet, our mutual love for Africa and combined work
experience in the region, our balance of gifts and even how we both love to
rock out in the car to 80’s, Worship or country music - never
listening to a full song before wanting a new one! :-)
When God is ready to move- He Moves!
When God is in the center of the lives of two people who
have allowed Jesus to mold them into the individuals He desires- He Rewards!
When two people continue to earnestly seek the Lord’s
guidance for their lives, no matter what their hearts might desire- He Gives Us
the Desires of Our Hearts.
It all simply fits and is the greatest blessing the Lord’s
provided in both of our lives! We’re both confident and convinced God has a
life-long story planned for us!!
Two is better than one!
And... sometimes... you just need to listen to Taylor Swift
and trust your instincts, “It’s a love story. Baby, just say Yes!”
Jesus has brought me my Prince. And I feel like a Princess.
I suppose Cinderella stories can come true!
So....
That’s our love story.
But really...
It’s God’s Love Story for us!
All the Glory Be To God!